Why I Decided To Become A Stay-At-Home Mom

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Although it’s not always easy and some days it takes ALL that I have to keep pushing, becoming a Stay-At-Home Mom is one of the best decisions I ever had the privilege of making.

Since I’ve dubbed myself The Millennial Stay-At-Home Mom, it’s only right that I share the ‘why’ behind me choosing to stay home. 

STORY TIME!

When my husband and I were in college, we had a conversation (or three) about how we’d like to raise our future kiddos (yeah, we kinda already were talking marriage and beyond fairly early into our relationship).

I remember telling him that I would love the opportunity to be able to stay at home with my children. 

Fast-forward a couple of years and we actually were presented with the opportunity to make the decision for me to stay at home with our son!

Needless to say, we jumped on it!

I know that it’s no longer typical for women to stay home with their kiddos. 

Besides, the cost of living alone is so high that more times than not, it take a two-income household to make ends meet. 

However, staying home with my son was a sacrifice that my husband and I were more than willing to make. 

Considering the situation from a strict financial perspective, we would’ve been pretty well off if I had decided to go back to work after Ju was born. 

But, for me, money isn’t everything. 

Plus, its highly likely that my hubby and I wouldn’t get to see each other very often due to his ever changing schedule.

Not to mention that by the time I got off of work, I doubt that I’d even have to patience or energy to give Judah the attention that he deserves. 

As fate would have it, my husband’s job relocated us shortly after our son was born, so me going back to work simply wasn’t in the cards for us.

“Staying home with my son was a sacrifice that my husband and I were more than willing to make.”

I loved the idea of being able to really pour into my son while he was so young.

I know that if I had decided to go back to work, someone else would be influencing my son.

Someone else would witness most, if not all, of his milestones.

Someone else would potentially form a bond with him that I’d never have.

& To be Honest, I wanted that all to myself.

I’ve learned that whomever or whatever we spend time with most, is what influences us most and I wanted Judah’s influence to come from his father and I.

Not the daycare workers

Not his grandparents

But his mom and dad.

I wanted to be there to witness his first smile, first laugh, and watch him take his first steps.

I wanted to have full control of what he watches and listens to.

I wanted to always be there to care for him when he was sick or even if he just wanted to snuggle.

Look, I’m aware that I sound like a control freak.

Don’t get me wrong, I have a lot of friends that are working moms and they sacrifice A LOT to make sure that their children’s needs are met!

I’m not at all saying that stay at home moms are superior to working moms. 

Besides, I’m the product of a single WORKING mother and I know that she sacrificed everything for my brother and me.

However, this is a post about why I decided to become a stay at home mom.

As a Stay-At-Home Mom, there are still sacrifices made and long hours worked; they just look different.

BUT in being a full-time wife and mother, I’ve discovered purpose within myself and I look forward to caring for my husband and son daily(even though I’m always exhausted).

I’m thankful that I no longer go to work stressing over the next project, worrying about the next deadline, or dealing with drama from coworkers.

Instead, I’m able to plan my days out as I see fit with only one goal to meet: serving my husband and our son the best way that I can.

I know it may not seem like a lot but it is E V E R Y T H I N G to me.

“As a Stay-At-Home Mom, there are still sacrifices made and long hours worked; they just look different. “

Ultimately, I decided to become a Stay-At-Home Mom because this is what I believe God’s will is for my life. He has given me a husband who is able to provide for us, and gifted us with a son who depends on us.

I became a stay at home mom because it is an honor to be given the opportunity to give my son what I wish I had and more.

Although it’s not always easy and some days it takes ALL that I have to keep pushing, becoming a Stay-At-Home Mom is one of the best decisions I ever had the privilege of making.

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12 Comments

  1. I love this! I feel the same way exactly. I know my kids will be fine with another caregiver, but I want to be the one to take care of them. I don’t want to miss a moment with them, esp when they are young! So I quit!

  2. I’m right there with you! It means so much to me that I get to stay home with my son ❤️ It’s worth it to me, even if it means we have to scrape by some months. It’s so rewarding, and you don’t miss out on any of the big moments! I don’t have a degree either, so even if I did work, it would all go straight to daycare since I never land high paying jobs. I’m happy for you 😊

  3. I love the way you look at everything, and your perspective on raising up your little one. I feel the exact same way!

  4. YES 🙌🏼 This is exactly how I felt when I decided to be a SAHM, and how I continue to feel. Tired but glad I get to spend my days with my boys and planning things as I need them to be, not my boss. I LOVE your blog and YOU! You are an amazing Mama! We need more blogs like this! Keep up the hard work

  5. Stephanie says:

    Great post! I always knew I wanted to be a stay at home mom. I love my job 🙂

  6. Shawna | MISHMASH MOMMY says:

    This is so true! I’m so thankful to have the opportunity to be a SAHM! Some days I want to rip my hair out, but it’s so worth it!

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