Once you have kids, it can be hard to make time for your spouse. Find out what my husband and I do to make our marriage a priority even after kids!
Marriage after kids can be…tricky to say the least.
Before kids, you and your spouse had the freedom to do whatever you wanted whenever you wanted to it.
Once kids are in the picture, you may find that you don’t seem to have much time for each other any more.
At least that’s what I heard…
You see, my hubby and I vowed that we would always make our marriage a priority – no matter our circumstances.
If you’ve read why I decided to become a Stay-At-Home Mom, you know that my hubby and I spent about 7 months apart while I was pregnant with our oldest.
Don’t get me wrong, it was hard, but even with the distance, we made our marriage our top priority.
We’ve been intentional about keeping that same energy now that we have kids.
Granted, our time spent together looks different, but a thriving marriage is conducive to a happy home – and that’s how we want to bring up our children.
If your marriage isn’t being nurtured, then you can bet that it’ll affect you home life and ultimately, your kids.
If you’re a SAHM like me, then you know that kids take up a major chunk of your day (ahem ALL DAY).
That’s why it’s so crucial to have your kids on a schedule during the day and at night.
I used to really struggle with this with my oldest and my hubby and I found that we hardly had any time alone since Ju was pretty much awake until we went to sleep.
When we learned that we were expecting our second son, we knew we had to start getting serious about getting both kids on a schedule if we wanted to keep our marriage thriving.
Besides, there was no reason for our one-year-old to be up until midnight with us.
I’m proud to say that the boys are on a pretty tight schedule now and as a result we’re able to have a few hours of uninterrupted time at night.
When we aren’t catching up on some of our favorite shows, we have ‘Date-Night’ at home with our monthly Date Night In Box!
Date Night In Boxes are a monthly box subscription that comes with a complete date night right inside the box!
This month the boys were with their grandma so we were lucky enough to be able to have a day date!
The theme for this month’s box was ‘Fall In Love’.
Yall, this box was jam packed!
To say that we LOVED it would be an understatement!
The first activity was ‘setting the mood’ by making our very own candle.
We didn’t do this one right away since it we were outside and it was windy.
The next activity was called ‘circle of life’. For this activity, there was a little tree slice inside that we got to decorate.
There was even an ink pad inside for our thumbprints!
The last activity was Bunco.
While it took us a second to get the hang of it, once we did, we laughed so hard that I’m sure our neighbors heard us!
Finally, there was a fun little question game called Face The Cookie.
I’m a sucker for a good question & answer game.
And I mean, what wife wouldn’t love to hear the answer to questions like:
“What life milestones have made you fall more deeply in love with me?”
“What reminds you of when you fell in love with me? (a song, a location, a scent, etc.)”
In addition to the activities, it included a snack for two and meal suggestions (with a grocery list!).
Date Night In Boxes also give you the option to choose to a faith based discussion guide to go along with your date.
I chose the faith-based option this time around and we just loved the content.
Not only did it come with a faith-based playlist, but it was all about how we can help each other grow in Christ.
We did this discussion guide first and it was a great way to set the tone for our date.
Being able to have a ‘date-night in’ has been so beneficial for our marriage.
It’s allowed us to continue to make our marriage a priority even with two very young children.
I highly recommend Date Night In Boxes to any couple that wants to nurture their marriage.
You can grab your first Date Night In Box here!
Have you ever tried Date Night In Boxes?
If so, what was your experience?
I’d love to hear about it in the comments below!
If not, what do you do to make your marriage a priority?